Let’s look at a letter towards the end of Napoleon’s marriage to his 1st wife Josephine.
LETTER XCIII TO THE EMPRESS, IN PARIS.
My friend, your letter of January 20 gave me pain; it is too sad.
Here is the evil of not being a little devout! You tell me that your happiness is your glory: it is not generous; it must be said: The happiness of others makes my glory: it is not conjugal; it must be said: My husband's happiness is my glory: it is not maternal; it should be said: The happiness of my children makes my glory.
However, as the people, your husband, and your children, can only be happy with a little glory, it should not be ignored so much!
Josephine, your heart is excellent, and your reason is weak; you feel wonderfully, but you reason less well. That's enough quarreling; I want you to be cheerful, to be happy with your lot, and to obey, not by being scolded by me and crying, but with gaiety of heart, and with a little happiness.
Farewell, my friend; I am leaving this night to inspect my outposts.
NAPOLEON.
